Is herpes a deal breaker for men?

“The right person will know that herpes is not a deal breaker,” says Henderson, “They will be able to work with you, get over it, and accept it.” If someone cannot deal with it, then they are not the right person, she says. Give yourself credit for being honest with partners.

Is it harder for a guy to get herpes?

The general rate of transmission of a person who has had herpes to their regular partner is about 10 percent per year, but the annual rate rises if the infected partner is a male. Unfairly, the female partner has a 20 percent chance of becoming infected, while the male partners risk is less than 10 percent.