Conflict in any meaningful relationship is inevitable. (Just ask my husband.) But instead of viewing arguing as a bad thing, experts agree relationship conflict can actually be healthy—an opportunity to learn more about your partner and how you can work together as a team.

What is a healthy fight in a relationship?

“Healthy fighting focuses on the individual situation at hand and pits the couple against the problem. This typically results in a resolution to the problem or at least a better understanding about why you feel as you do and why your partner feels as they do.

Is it normal to argue everyday in a relationship?

Although arguing with your partner is normal, fighting every day in a relationship or fighting over certain topics — like your values — shouldnt be ignored. John Gottman found that 69% of conflict experienced in relationships is never-ending.

Why does my girlfriend pick fights?

If your girlfriend is constantly picking fights, know that its because shes picking up on something. It might not be about your messy room or your innocent comment about how tired you are, but its there, tied to something bigger. We pick fights because we cant figure out what were really upset about.

Do fights ruin relationships?

Also, many negative interactions recur because they are not adequately resolved. The succeeding arguments often emerge with renewed vigor and more damage. Even if a couple is superb at reconciliation, too many of these painful conflicts can ultimately destroy even the most devoted of lovers.