While “are you still on Tinder?” is a perfectly OK lead-in to a conversation about what you both want, I do think its important to not get stuck on that particular point. So even if you were to start with Tinder, Id suggest quickly moving on to the bigger conversation—to clearly expressing what it is you want.

Should you ask why someone is on Tinder?

Ask your Tinder match the reason why they do their job Another great conversation starter is asking your match if its more important to work at a job they love or one theyre good at performing. They might also not understand the extra time you dedicate to your job youre so passionate about.

Why do guys not message first?

Insecurities push him into a shell thats why he never texts first. While receiving your texts, he knows you want to talk to him. But his insecurities might hinder the quality and flow of communication. He might not feel so great about himself and may avoid initiating any chats with you.