Your spouse also must be perfectly comfortable with your flirting. In other words, if he or she were standing right there while you were flirting away, you, your spouse and the flirtee would all be perfectly at ease.

Is there such a thing as innocent flirting?

Its a harmless and innocent activity that makes neither party uncomfortable. Healthy flirting between partners who seek to intensify the intimacy in their relationship. When flirting is well-received and reciprocated it feels good and might boost self-esteem.

What is the goal of innocent flirting?

The idea is: If the behavior has a goal in mind, its manipulation. And the goal of flirting is “either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, or if done playfully, for amusement.”