Because grief is so personal, each person reacts differently to the death of a loved one. One spouse may have the instinct may be to reach out and connect. Another partner may retreat, distract themselves with work or hobbies or shut down. Your relationship with the deceased was a unique one.

How does losing a parent affect romantic relationships?

While adults who experienced early parental loss have higher rates of health and emotional issues, in general, they are able to find and maintain adult relationships, though they are somewhat less stable, suggesting a level of attachment insecurity.

How long is it OK to grieve?

You may start to feel better in 6 to 8 weeks, but the whole process can last anywhere from 6 months to 4 years. You may start to feel better in small ways.

How often should you check on someone grieving?

Your friend or relative may need you even more after the first few weeks and months, when other people may stop calling. Check in every now and then just to say hello (you may find it helpful to put reminders on your calendar). Most bereaved people find it difficult to reach out and need others to take the initiative.